Let yourself breathe after a broken relationship
For the most part, when it comes to breaking up, people often think that they and their partner are broken, along with a relationship that is rarely mentioned, which is the breakdown in their relationship with themselves.
As you become more and more unstable in a relationship, more and more questions keep popping up as a way to ask yourself: "What did I do wrong?", "Am I the one who doesn't understand?", "Am I going to meet anyone who loves me like that?",... But you know what, it's a sign of a more important next question not what you need to do to keep that person, what should you should change and how to change, but "When do I let myself breathe?"
The biggest pain when a relationship breaks down is the feeling of regret and rejection, that's why many people find ways because they think they can change the situation. And often in pain, we only see "breakup" as "hurt". From a different perspective when it comes to broken love, whether you leave or the other person leaves, each breakup makes you bigger than you were at that time.
What do I do when I have to accept something I don't want to accept?
Perhaps the "pit" of loneliness and regret will be the next journey after breaking up, many old habits have now changed, feeling familiar things are just memories. However, do you know, regret is not a bad thing, we often promote "live without regrets, love without regrets", but at some point, regret is a beauty worth cherishing and remembering.
Our job right now is not to force ourselves to accept something. What helps us to grow after a broken relationship is learning to be with ourselves, learning to gently put the "heavy" down and allowing ourselves to stop being stubborn, just acknowledging what's going on.
"If something happens, that's what has to happen", facing the choice of leaving or staying is also a great lesson after a long time of working with yourself to understand that the more you love yourself the more you can love others.
Let yourself breathe as a quiet space to come back to yourself, to open your heart to feel the pain, nostalgia, and sadness that are "visiting" instead of chasing them away. Allowing yourself to breathe to see the brokenness outside can be a step towards healing the broken inside. Let yourself breathe to know where the limits are and the stops. Let yourself breathe to continue living normal days, waiting for a day when love will return, and your heart will have a chance to cheer again.
“Love is something that belongs to you, and love is something that belongs to both of you” - collectibles
After all, instead of ending the relationship with an apology, we learn to say thank you for ourselves, for the person, and for the lessons of growth. Instead of seeking control, we allow ourselves to breathe and learn to be more at peace with ourselves.
